Feeling Awkward about Being Different?
We are all born originals - why is it so many of us die copies? - Edward Young
Feeling Like You Don't Fit In ...
Being unique can make you start to feel awkward about who you are. If you are not like everybody else ... you can feel like you don't fit ... and don't belong.
And that is a horrible way to feel .. especially when you consider that everyone is unique. Everyone, underneath the things that define a generation or a culture, is truly unique and vastly different ... from the things they love to what inspires them or makes them laugh.
Dealing with Awkwardness
If you really are an odd duck, there is no sense in beating around the bush. To fit in socially, you need to find one thing in common with the people around you that help you fit in and be considered a mate ... one of the guys ... even if you are "a bit out there".
Common ground can be found in music, sports or a passion for what is new and trendy or very traditional. And if you can't blend in, being able to explain (without explaining) how you are different is valuable ... can really help. Usually, putting your uniqueness into a context that makes sense to the ones around you .. can help them accept and embrace what makes you different.
Building Upon Passions
One of the best ways in our culture to make a difference or unique way of being Ok is to put it in terms of a passion, and then relate that passion to a career or profession. Many people who do not know how to value our differences, do know how to value something that will make you successful, wealthy or famous.
Those are some of the key values of our culture, and tying your uniqueness to one (or all of) them can help you be accepted by your family, peers and teachers.
Or, you can relate your passions to the passionate pursuit of those around you. If your Grandmother or Great Uncle had the same or a related passion ... letting people know that can help them make sense of who you are ... and why you are the way you are. It can also help them understand why you excel at certain things.
Finding A Life Calling
Another way to feel less awkward and put other people at ease, is to link what makes you unique and different to your life calling ... the thing you are meant to do with your life.
A keen sense of smell could make you an essential member of a search and rescue team, a great nose for a perfume developer, or the inspector of gas leaks. It could also make you a great doctor, an innovative winemaker, or a successful home appraiser.
But life callings are more than just a profession .. they are a way to help people and create a better world to live and grow up in. And if the people around you .. and you yourself .. can see how you will do that .. a lot of the awkwardness of being different can be replaced by a vision of who you are meant to become ... and all that lies ahead of you waiting to be done.
The Next Step
You can discover what makes you unique with these pages and tools ...
Inspiring Quotes about Being Unique
